April 4, 2023

First-Time Parent Fears and Challenges are Eased with Trust and Kindness

Any parent facing the daunting task of trimming your baby’s nails for the first time knows the fear of accidentally harming that tiny finger. Laxmi, who came to Iowa from Nepal, is scared, too. Her baby has been scratching his face. Laxmi knows those nails need trimming, but she tried once, unsuccessfully, and doesn’t want to try again.

Audrey Van Kamen is an RN with EveryStep’s Nurse-Family Partnership program. She is also a mom and understands Laxmi’s fear. With the aid of an EveryStep interpreter, Audrey shows Laxmi some tricks and then has her do it herself. Success!

Showing Laxmi how to trim her baby’s nails is more than teaching a parenting skill. It is the result of the trust built between Laxmi and Audrey, and the availability of an interpreter to enable the conversation. EveryStep’s pregnancy and parenting support make both possible.

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EveryStep Foundation Board of Trustees member Kelly Caldbeck had the opportunity to accompany Audrey on her visit with Laxmi and she recognized the relational aspect that makes EveryStep’s programs successful. “I was touched by how nice and established of a relationship Audrey had with mom, dad and baby. It was more than just a professional relationship. It was kind, intimate and genuine. It was clear how much the family trusted Audrey,” says Kelly.

During her scheduled visit, Audrey weighs, measures and tests baby’s development and also checks in on Laxmi’s well-being – she had an appendectomy shortly after giving birth. When Laxmi’s husband shows Audrey the medical bill resulting from the appendectomy, Audrey makes a note to contact the EveryStep Foundation to see if financial assistance is possible.

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“I think the impact of having a nurse visit the family from prenatal care through year two is multifaceted,” says Kelly. “Not only are the nurses providing their expertise in regard to the pregnancy and development of the baby, but they provide kindness and support for the parents. This resource is incredibly valuable.”

Following the check-in with Laxmi, Audrey and Kelly travel to another location to meet with Ja, who is interested in EveryStep’s pregnancy and parenting support. Kelly was impressed with the interaction. “The kindness that Audrey showed Ja during their first meeting really resonated with me. Ja recently moved here and doesn’t speak any English. Our time with her helped me understand the challenges associated with not only moving into a new community but also learning how to have a healthy pregnancy and raise a baby.”

The interactions Kelly observed during the two visits with Audrey enriched her commitment to EveryStep’s work. “EveryStep touches everything that I feel strongly about. I left those visits feeling inspired, motivated and thankful that EveryStep is a resource for families. I’ve seen firsthand how staff members engage their clients and the community, and I couldn’t be more supportive.”

EveryStep shows up when people need us most — no matter who they are or what circumstances they face. The diversity and breadth of our programs ensure we can meet a variety of needs at once and provide ongoing assistance over time, leading to real results for thousands of Iowans now leading more stable, fulfilling lives.

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We all face difficult moments in life. The outcome depends on whether we have compassionate care and support along the way — the type that EveryStep provides.

If you or someone you know is struggling to find the support they need, please contact EveryStep at 515-558-9946 or complete the commitment-free, confidential “Find Care” form on EveryStep’s website at www.everystep.org/find-care. EveryStep staff will follow up with a phone call to answer your questions and provide assistance.