June 13, 2023
When Facing a Hospice Decision, Lori Found Support with EveryStep
Lori Goldsmith is a strong woman. If she sees something broken, she fixes it. If someone needs help, she’s the one to give it. She’s not used to asking for help herself, but during one of life’s most challenging moments, she found the support she needed from EveryStep.
Lori’s husband, Kirk, was also strong. A diabetic since age 5, Kirk faced a number of heath challenges throughout his life. Despite those challenges, he and Lori led a full life during their 35 years of marriage. “Kirk was just a really low-key, down to earth guy,” says Lori. “He liked to hunt, he liked to fish, and just spend time at home.”
In February 2022, Kirk developed an infection in his big toe and because of his diabetic condition, it required amputation. Complications in his recovery led to kidney failure and when presented with the option of dialysis, Kirk and his family made the decision to stop treatment.
“He had a life full of health issues,” says Lori. “I remember Kirk once said he would be okay with dying, but would like to see our first grandchild born. Thankfully he was able to welcome our first two granddaughters. Our oldest is 4 and our youngest is 2. They were Papa’s whole world.”
Lori says she had heard of EveryStep, but didn’t know much about it. “Most people probably don’t think they’re going to have to end up using hospice, but a friend of mine was a health care provider and said she would contact EveryStep for us.”
The EveryStep Hospice team in Mount Ayr quickly arranged for Kirk’s care in his home. “When the nurses came, it was just reassuring to both of us,” says Lori. “Over the eight months of hospice care, they provided peace of mind, more than anything. If there was a bit of change, they would let me know. Once, he seemed like he was having a heart attack and I called them after hours. They were so good, talking me through things or even coming to the house, even after hours just to check on him.”
Lori and Kirk’s two sons and their grandchildren were able to spend time with Kirk in their Creston home during his hospice care. On November 10, 2022, Kirk passed away at the age of 60.
Lori remains strong and has advice for others like her. “I would just encourage people — don't try to do it yourself. Take the help, take the services. [EveryStep] is wonderful.”
EveryStep Hospice helps those living with a serious illness make the best out of every day. Most hospice care is provided through in-home hospice services; however, when a patient needs around-the-clock hospice care to manage their pain and symptoms, EveryStep Hospice’s Kavanagh House in Des Moines is available. To learn more about EveryStep Hospice, visit here.
If you or someone you know is struggling to find the support they need, please contact EveryStep at 515-558-9946. Or complete the commitment-free, confidential Find Care form. EveryStep staff will follow up with a phone call to answer your questions and provide assistance.